Simple ways to support every player
Every young person comes to sport with different strengths, needs and ways of learning. For some, these differences are visible. For others, they’re not.
Many young people are neurodivergent. This can include autism, ADHD, dyslexia, anxiety, sensory sensitivities and other hidden challenges. These differences aren’t problems to fix – they’re part of who young people are. But they can affect how a young person experiences sport.
Creating positive sporting experiences means coaching in ways that are flexible, understanding and inclusive.
Behaviour is communication
Sometimes behaviour that looks like “not listening”, “being disruptive” or “switching off” is a sign that something isn’t working for that young person.
They might be overwhelmed, anxious, unsure what’s expected, or struggling to process instructions. When this happens, it helps to pause and ask:
- What might this young person be experiencing right now?
- How can I adjust the environment or my approach?
Responding with curiosity and empathy, rather than punishment, helps young people feel safe and supported.
Clear, simple communication helps everyone
Neurodivergent young people often benefit from:
- short, clear instructions
- demonstrations instead of long explanations
- knowing what’s coming next.
Simple changes like breaking activities into small steps, outlining the plan for the day, repeating key points, or using visual cues can make a big difference – and they usually help all players, not just some.
Choice builds confidence and engagement
Having some choice gives young people a sense of control and can reduce anxiety. Where possible, let them decide when to join in and if they need to pause, including the option to sit out briefly and rejoin when they feel ready.
Choice helps young people stay engaged and feel respected, especially if they’re easily overwhelmed or tired.
Create a calm, welcoming environment
Busy, noisy or unpredictable environments can be challenging for some young people. Coaches can help by:
- keeping sessions predictable and consistent
- being mindful of noise and sensory overload
- keeping transitions simple and signposting what’s next
- allowing space away from the group if needed.
A calm environment supports confidence, learning and enjoyment.
Focus on effort, not outcomes
For some young people, pressure to perform or get it right can quickly reduce enjoyment. Coaches and parents can help by:
- praising effort, bravery and progress
- avoiding comparisons between players
- keeping competition in perspective.
When young people feel accepted for who they are, they’re more likely to keep coming back.
Work with parents and caregivers
Whānau, parents and caregivers often know what works best for their young person. A quick conversation can provide helpful insights, such as:
- what helps their child stay calm and focused
- things that may trigger stress or anxiety
- how they prefer to receive feedback.
This partnership supports better experiences for everyone.
Small changes can have a big impact
You don’t need specialist training or perfect knowledge to be inclusive. Being open, flexible and willing to adapt goes a long way.
By creating environments where young people feel safe, understood and valued, we support their confidence, enjoyment and long-term connection to sport.
This article is based on tips written by a parent of a neurodiverse child. They have been republished with permission.
Read more here:
Tips and suggestions for coaches working with autistic kids – Friends of Football
How to support young footballers with hidden challenges and disabilities – Friends of Football
