When young people play sport, it’s natural to notice the score.
Did they win? How many goals did they score? Where did the team finish?
But results are only one part of the picture.
The experiences young people have in sport can have a much bigger impact than any scoreboard. Things like having fun, feeling part of a team, learning new skills and growing in confidence are often what keep them involved.
Success is more than winning
As parents and coaches, the things we pay attention to send a message about what matters.
If we only talk about results, young people can start to think winning is the most important thing.
But if we also celebrate effort, improvement and enjoyment, we help them see success in different ways.
What should we be looking for?
Alongside results, consider whether young people are:
- Enjoying their sport
- Trying new things and learning new skills
- Growing in confidence
- Building friendships and feeling they belong
- Looking forward to coming back next week
These are all signs of a positive sporting experience.
Questions that can help
After a game or training, try asking:
- What did you enjoy today?
- What did you learn?
- What are you proud of?
- What was challenging?
- What would you like to keep working on?
These questions help shift the focus from outcomes to learning and development.
The long-term view
Most young people won’t remember every result.
They will remember how sport made them feel.
When sport helps young people have fun, build confidence, develop skills and feel connected, they’re more likely to stay involved and enjoy the benefits of being active for life.
That’s worth celebrating.
